You can't get where you're going if you don't know where you are.

Hello Flourishing Friends,   

Happy New Year! January often arrives with pressure to change—new goals, new habits, new versions of ourselves. But before anything meaningful can shift, there’s a quieter, more essential step that often gets skipped:

You have to know where you are.

Recently, I was in a mall trying to find the See’s Candies store (Ruthie asked Santa to bring her a chocolate lollipop for Christmas <3 ). I did what we all do—I looked for the directory map. The map was detailed, clear, and full of helpful information… except for one problem... I couldn’t find the “You Are Here” dot.

Without that dot, the map didn’t help at all. I could see where I wanted to go, but I had no reference point for where I was starting. So every path felt confusing. Every turn felt like a guess.

That’s exactly what happens when we try to make changes in our health or well-being without understanding our current state.

Many clients I work with are incredibly capable. They’re doing a lot “right.” And yet they feel stuck, depleted, overwhelmed, or disconnected from themselves. What’s missing isn’t effort or motivation—it’s clarity.

Clarity about:

• How their nervous system is actually functioning

• How much their physiology is running the show beneath the surface

• How adaptable (or overextended) their body truly is right now

• What will actually allow their body to change.

When we don’t know where we are, we tend to push forward anyway—applying strategies, habits, or “fixes” that don’t match our current capacity. And that’s when healing feels frustrating, slow, or out of reach.

Sometimes the most supportive thing you can do is pause and face the truth of your current patterns:

• How you respond to stress

• How quickly (or slowly) you recover

• Where you brace, disconnect, or push through

• What your body has learned to do to keep you functioning

This isn’t about judgment.It’s about orientation.

In my office, this is exactly what I assess:

• Your physiology

• Your nervous system patterns

• How much safety, flexibility, and resilience your body has access to right now

In other words, we find your “you are here” dot.

Because once you know where you are, the map becomes useful—and the path forward often becomes clearer and gentler than you expected.

January doesn’t need to be about forcing change. It can be about honest awareness, clear guidance, and choosing next steps that actually fit your nervous system.

If you’re feeling unsure about what your body needs next, an assessment can be a deeply supportive place to begin, whether you are a new patient or an existing patient looking to check in. It’s a chance to slow down, take stock, and understand what’s really driving your symptoms—so you’re no longer guessing.

You’re welcome to schedule an initial assessment, or simply reply to this email if you’d like help figuring out whether it’s the right next step for you. There’s no rush—just an invitation to start with clarity.

As always, I hope this helps you.

Love,

Dr. Ev

Your guide from overwhelm to ease